Universal Law of Unconditional Love – 1/2/18 Healthy Boundaries


Reflections on Unconditional Love 
     My lesson this week around the Universal Law of Unconditional Love involved maintaining healthy boundaries while continuing to love freely and openly. Unconditional love includes loving ourselves enough to stand up for what we believe. It is important that we love ourselves enough to stand in our power by maintaining high standards for how we are treated. We are free to walk away when others fail to treat us with the respect and attention we desire. This does not mean that we stop loving the other person unconditionally; we can continue to love them from a distance. But if they are unable to be appropriate in their interactions with us, we are not required to subject ourselves to abuse–silent or expressed. It is possible to place conditions on our time and energy without placing conditions on our love.
     Of course we can communicate with the other person and let them know how we feel. We can request a change in behavior and can be patient while we give them the opportunity to shift the behavior in question. We can also support them in their efforts to change. The important distinction is that we are setting conditions on behavior, not on being. We can still completely and fully love them for who they are–a precious child of God–without condoning inappropriate behavior. And we can require that behavior change in order for us to continue our interactions with them. This requirement is independent of the love we feel for them. We continue to love them unconditionally, whether or not they change and whether or not we continue to spend time with them.
We express unconditional love when we keep them in our prayers and when we continue to wish for them blessings of light and healing. Just as we continue to love our children even when we are angry at them for breaking a rule put in place for their own good, so we can continue to love all of God’s children in spite of their misguided transgressions. We recognize that everyone is innately worthy of love. We send this love out to all freely, without discrimination; we then discern whether or not we choose to spend our time and energy directly with them or whether we prefer to maintain a healthy distance as a way of supporting our own personal energy and unconditionally loving ourselves.